When you bring your child to an open field overlooking a cliff and tell him that he can go anywhere or do anything he wants, your child will feel frightened and insecure. He does not know where the limits are. Your child needs fences to feel safe. You are that fence and you set those limits. Your child will test you and push against your fence to make sure that you can hold firm and keep him safe. Be bigger, stronger and wiser and your child will grow in trust and confidence.